A few years ago I connected with someone who thought I would be the perfect fit for her company’s trainings.  At the time, I was really wanting to break into this arena and was excited about the prospect. I submitted a proposal to the educational supervisor and we emailed back and forth for a couple of weeks until I received a final email stating “We are not proceeding forward at this time.”  

I still remember that Wednesday, and when I read the email, I cried! I don’t cry often but this really affected me and I spent two days sad and disappointed. Later I realized it was such a waste to let this random circumstance dictate my happiness and joy! 

Dealing with disappointment can be different for everyone. As an Enneagram Type 1, I can have a strong inner critic. My mentor coach has since reminded me – “What’s allowing you to give your power over to another person?” I was giving my power of joy and happiness over to someone that I had never even met, over something that I had no control over. I did my best, it just wasn’t the right fit or the right time for some reason or another. And most importantly, I believe, “that all things work out for my good!”